Pay Attending To Those Repeated Stories - They May Live On Important
The stories told past times people amongst Alzheimer’s tin learn us a lot close their lives.
I arrived at Ethel’s door ane Th afternoon.
After a long interruption (which made me gauge she’d been taking a nap), she opened the door as well as smiled when she saw me.
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“Come in! Come in, honey!”
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By Marie Marley
“The binding is all frayed. I accept to pose a novel binding on it.”
That was a perfectly “normal” matter to tell as well as demo me. But the matter is, Ethel shows me the same quilt as well as makes the same comments close the binding every week.
She also tells me each fourth dimension that she has 2 framed pictures of Jesus inwards her room, as well as she points them out to me.
In addition, she tells me that the 2 angels over her bed were supposed to accept been centered precisely they weren’t because at that topographic point wouldn’t accept been plenty room for her walker. (I never could sympathize that, precisely she ever said it.)
As I’ve mentioned several times here, I volunteer to view some ladies amongst Alzheimer’s at Clare Bridge, Brookdale Senior Living’s retentivity aid facility. Ethel is ane of my iii ladies.
Since I’ve been visiting I’ve learned that most of my ladies accept stories they tell me every time. My supposition is that these stories (and the events they depict) are deeply meaningful to them as well as constantly on their minds.
Perhaps Ethel’s flush close the binding gives us a clue that sewing was really of import inwards her life. Similarly, the pictures of Jesus belie her rigid religious foundation.
Finally, I wonder if the flush close the angels non exclusively reveals her religious beliefs precisely perchance also a streak of obsessive compulsiveness – wanting everything to move lined upwards as well as perfectly centered. It’s almost every bit though she’s embarrassed as well as has to explicate the lack of symmetry to me.
Of class my ladies don’t recollect they’ve told me their stories before; each fourth dimension is similar the first. And I ever respond every bit though it’s the get-go fourth dimension I’ve heard them.
Here are a few other stories I accept the pleasance of hearing every week:
Ruth: Ruth ever tells me that during World War II the Army used to coach immature ladies to the post to trip the low-cal fantastic toe amongst the soldiers. She was ane of the ladies, as well as they had such a grand time. She goes into swell exceptional when she tells me close this. It must accept been an of import business office of her life at the time.
Ruth also ever mentions to me that her children took her machine keys away as well as that her hubby died. It’s slow to sympathize why these 2 stories are as well as thence important to her.
Carolyn: Carolyn (since deceased) didn’t actually accept a story, precisely she did accept something critical she told me every week.
As I was leaving I ever said, “I’ll run into you lot over again adjacent Thursday.”
And she ever answered, “I don’t think I’ll move here. I’m going abode tomorrow.”
Going abode was apparently ane of the most persistent things on her mind.
So I ever told her, “Well if you’re hither I’ll run into you lot as well as if you lot acquire home, accept a wonderful fourth dimension there.”
This response seemed to pose her hear at ease.
Sue: Sue is really shy as well as I’ve had a lot of difficulty getting her to verbalize to me. But ane 24-hour interval she picked upwards a majority from her tabular array as well as showed it to me.
“It has data close every soil inwards the world.”
She opened the majority to the entry close South Africa as well as began reading it to me. (Sue is however able to read.)
Then she went on to tell inwards exquisite exceptional how she had acquired the majority as well as how happy she was to accept it.
“Sometimes when I’m reading the paper I come upwards across a flush inwards some soil I don’t know anything about, as well as thence I expect it upwards inwards this book.”
The adjacent fourth dimension I visited her at that topographic point was a lull inwards the conversation as well as thence I asked close the book. Her human face upwards lit it as well as she told me the same exact data she’d told me the fourth dimension before.If my ladies don’t spontaneously tell their special stories, I convey them up. Then they cheerfully tell me the details, which are ordinarily perfectly clear inwards their memories.
This tells me the paper is of import to her as well as she actually needs to know something close the countries mentioned inwards it.
The stories told past times people amongst Alzheimer’s tin learn us a lot close their lives. They also assist us honor of import topics to verbalize over when nosotros visit, which tin brand our visits far to a greater extent than pleasant as well as meaningful to the mortal we’re seeing.
Does anyone else out at that topographic point accept loved ones amongst special stories?
Care to share?
*Marie Marley, PhD, is the accolade award winning writer of, Come Back Early Today: Influenza A virus subtype H5N1 Story of Love, Alzheimer’s as well as Joy. You tin view Marie’s website which has a wealth of advice for Alzheimer’s caregivers at ComeBackEarlyToday.A dissimilar version of this article was published on the Huffington Post.
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