Alzheimer's The World In Addition To No World
In Alzheimer's World the give-and-take NO tin sack interruption yous downwardly emotionally. It tin sack drive yous to give up. It tin sack plough your thoughts in addition to feelings thence negative that yous simply halt trying.
By Bob DeMarco
If I had a buck for every fourth dimension my woman parent said NO I would locomote on the Forbes 400 listing of the world's richest people.
If I had a buck for every fourth dimension my woman parent suggested nosotros locomote some house or create something, I would locomote dead rock broke.
In Alzheimer's World the give-and-take NO tin sack interruption yous downwardly emotionally. It tin sack drive yous to give up. It tin sack plough your thoughts in addition to feelings thence negative that yous simply halt trying. Alzheimer's wins.
Honestly, who wants to remove heed the give-and-take NO over in addition to over. Raise yous hand.
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No is a tiny petty word. Tiny but powerful.
Alzheimer's illness is a sinister disease. Its sneaky. Much of the fourth dimension yous powerfulness non fifty-fifty know it is there. Alzheimer's is out to larn you, in addition to larn yous it volition if yous allow it.
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I've written before, Alzheimer's kills the encephalon of the somebody that has Alzheimer's disease. It volition also essay to kill the volition in addition to spirit of the Alzheimer's caregiver.
Alzheimer's wants to kill everything it comes inwards contact amongst -- and this agency you. Alzheimer's tin sack in addition to volition kill your spirit -- if yous allow it.
There are many ways to alter the NO epitome in addition to to start using the give-and-take NO against Alzheimer's. Here is the outset step.
Just
Say
NO
to
Alzheimer's.
I am going to propose if yous are struggling amongst the give-and-take NO inwards Alzheimer's World that yous create the following.
When yous wake upward inwards the morn in addition to are brushing your teeth I desire yous to await inwards the mirror. I desire yous to await yourself correct inwards the oculus in addition to I desire yous to state -- Just Say NO to Alzheimer's. I desire yous to create the same exact affair earlier yous locomote to bed at night.
Here is a tip. When yous desire someone that has Alzheimer't to create something or to participate inwards an activity yous cause got to hook upward amongst your asking to something that the Alzheimer's patient loves or likes to do.
For example. I powerfulness state to Dotty, nosotros are going to the doc at 10. I already know what Dotty is going to say. Some combination of NO, I don't require to locomote to the doctor, the doc is a quack, or all the doc wants is our money.
Every time.
So hither is where I choose inwards the positive or positive reinforcement.
I say, nosotros are going to locomote to the doc at 10 in addition to when nosotros are done nosotros are going out to breakfast. Breakfast is Dotty's favorite meal. If I gave Dotty breakfast 3 times a day, she would locomote 1 happy camper.
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If nosotros cause got the engagement inwards the afternoon I say, nosotros are going to the doc in addition to after nosotros complete nosotros are going to larn an H2O ice cream cone. Or I powerfulness say, nosotros are going to larn lottery tickets.
I hook upward amongst what nosotros are doing to something that Dotty wants, loves.
In fact, I am marrying NO to YES. The final words are the claw -- the positive number of doing something. The claw is something that Dotty would never state NO too. You cause got to honour the "hook".
Over the years I expanded on the above. I started telling Dotty the twenty-four hr menses before (or the eve before) that nosotros are going to the doc tomorrow in addition to after nosotros complete something real positive is going to happen. The something is a nutrient or an activity that Dotty would never refuse: breakfast, H2O ice cream, or fifty-fifty a slot machine.
I start marrying the NO to something positive the twenty-four hr menses before. I create this many times over in addition to over. I desire to embed a positive number inwards her heed equally many times equally I can. In other words, I desire to negate the NO equally many times equally I can. Frankly, I believe this cancels out the NO.
My woman parent ever said NO to exercise. Years agone I started convincing my woman parent that exercise would assist strengthen her legs, arrive easier to walk, in addition to larn rid of the hurting inwards her knees that she complains most every day.
My mother's initial reply is ever NO to exercise. But approximate what. She goes every time.
My sis Joanne volition bear witness that I cause got convinced (or mayhap brainwashed) Dotty that exercise is essential to the good beingness of her legs in addition to the powerfulness to locomote along walking. My woman parent fears the walker in addition to the wheelchair to a greater extent than in addition to thence she "hates" exercise.
Nevertheless, this does non halt Dotty from maxim NO upfront.
Here is an example.
I tell my woman parent early on inwards the morn when she wakes upward nosotros are going to the gym. She at nowadays says NO, I am non going. I create what I already described. I halt on the positive note, something that Dotty would never refuse.
I lay out her gym cloths good inwards advance in addition to tell her nosotros are going to the gym. She tells me she is non putting them on. Guess what I say?
OK, good, yous are getting the hang of it.
When the fourth dimension comes to set on the gym cloths, I alter it upward a fighting past times adding the hook, when nosotros are done nosotros are going out to breakfast, or when nosotros larn dorsum yous are getting breakfast -- egg, toast, coffee, bacon etc.
Finally, she is dressed in addition to away nosotros go.
However, the Alzheimer's does non halt trying to defeat me.
On the way to the gym Dotty tells me she is non going inwards when nosotros larn there. I ignore the NO in addition to accentuate the positive for her.
When nosotros larn at that topographic point she tells me she is non getting out of the car. More positive reinforcement equally I walk to a greater extent than or less the car, opened upward the door, in addition to orbit out my hand.
On the way inwards she tells me, I am going inwards but I am simply going to sit down there, I am non going to create anything.
As nosotros brand our way in, Dotty is bent over. I lookout adult man the snails that are walking faster than nosotros are. If yous didn't know better, yous would recollect Dotty was going to the gas chamber.
We larn inwards in addition to I assist Dotty on to the treadmill, in addition to away nosotros go.
On the way out, Dotty is standing upward straight, she is walking a fighting faster, in addition to most times she fifty-fifty smiles.
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Recap.
Start looking inwards the mirror in addition to maxim NO to Alzheimer's. If yous create this it volition locomote a rigid belief embedded inwards your brain.
Don't inquire the Alzheimer's patient if they desire to create something. Say gently, nosotros are going to (fill inwards the blank) in addition to yous are going to larn something (fill inwards the blank) that yous actually dear equally an halt production of the effort.
Coffee, H2O ice cream, Irish Gaelic patato chips, breakfast industrial plant for us every time.
In closing, yous cause got to start somewhere. You are trying to create 3 things.
- First, convince yourself that yous are willing to state NO to Alzheimer's. To come upward to a belief.
- Second, purpose positive reinforcement equally the end-game of every experience. Develop the "hooks".
- Third, establish a blueprint that works in addition to and thence brand certain yous sing every praise in addition to positive give-and-take yous tin sack recollect of when the mission is accomplished. Lay on the positive in addition to praise equally difficult in addition to equally oftentimes equally yous can.
Accentuate over in addition to over how happy yous are, how pleased yous are, how wonderful the somebody that has Alzheimer's is for participating.
This won't locomote hard, the joy volition simply coming flight out of you.
NO is a tiny petty word, in addition to the solely fourth dimension yous are going to cause got the give-and-take NO is when yous say
NO to Alzheimer's disease.
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