Dementia Care, The Alzheimer's Hamster Inside You
Learning how to communicate alongside a individual living alongside dementia is non easy. I started to experience similar a hamster running on a treadmill. I seemed to live going no where fast. I lastly decided to acquire off the Alzheimer's treadmill. Here is how I did it.
By Bob DeMarco
Change is hard nether whatsoever circumstance. It is fifty-fifty harder when you lot necessitate to alter something that you lot cause got been doing all twenty-four hours long throughout your life.
Every Alzheimer's caregiver I always met has talked nearly their necessitate to vent.
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If you lot cause got gone years complaining nearly the same behaviour over too over you lot must inquire yourself, how practise I alter this dynamic? Change? How practise I alter what is happening?
Two of the behaviors that motion the Alzheimer's caregiver crazy are repeatedly hearing the same query over too over, too hearing hateful spirited words.
We all confront this. In the existent footing when someone says something hateful it unremarkably starts an argument. Even if the individual didn't actually hateful what they said. If someone engages inwards a behaviour that you lot discovery unsettling, you lot volition unremarkably respond with harsh words or inwards a hateful note of voice.
When an Alzheimer's caregiver responds harshly to someone living alongside Alzheimer's affliction they unremarkably regret doing so. This inwards plough makes them experience guilt too remorse. When you lot start living a life amount of guilt too remorse it is probable that your whole footing is going to plough negative. Negativity breads to a greater extent than negatively.
One of the things that drove me crazy was when my woman raise would country over too over -- I'm hungry, I'm starving.
Of course, similar only nearly every Alzheimer's caregiver, I would respond past times trying to tell my woman raise she only ate, or maybe country something fifty-fifty worse - you can't peradventure live hungry you lot only ate.
I knew I had to practise something. I understood that I had to change. I understood that I would necessitate to railroad train an exclusively new prepare of communication skills. I knew it wouldn't live easy, too it wasn't. It took years, too I a withal working on it.
In the article,
I discussed how I started edifice a novel model of communication to ameliorate empathize Alzheimer's.
Today, I am going to hash out how I developed a uncomplicated icon inwards my caput that allowed me to switch seamlessly from communicating inwards existent footing to communicating inwards Alzheimer's footing inwards an instant.
This is how I got myself off the Alzheimer's Hamster wheel.
It all started when I started thinking of myself every bit a hamster.
Before I made it to Alzheimer's World it seemed that no affair how hard I tried to communicate effectively alongside my mom - I unremarkably ended upwardly making matters worse.
When I made matters worse, my mom would conk into her room too curl upwardly into a ball inwards bed. I would conk out inwards the living room, too I took my tummy ache alongside me. I would only sit down at that spot too feel worse too worse.
Unlike inwards the existent world, where you lot mightiness live able to apologize or argue alongside a individual too dismiss the bad feelings, this rarely plant inwards Alzheimer's world.
I only kept thinking to myself, I am similar a hamster on a hamster wheel. I kept running too running until I got exhausted too when I was done, I realized I went no where fast. Over too over, I went no where fast. I only couldn't select this too I wanted to change.
When it would all start, the meanness, the repeating of the same words over too over, I would convey upwardly the icon of the hamster on the bicycle inwards my mind. I saw the hamster running too running only about the wheel. Going no where fast. There was i big difference. The hamster inwards my icon was me.
There I was, right higher upwardly my caput going no where fast.
And thus it happened. I brought upwardly the hamster that was me too my communication changed. It was subtle at first, I had lastly convinced myself that I didn't desire to live a hamster whatsoever more. I gauge you lot could also say, at that spot came a fourth dimension when I refused to live an Alzheimer's hamster.
I brought upwardly my hamster icon whenever I needed to, too I thus crossed coolly too calmly into Alzheimer's World. I was no longer bent out of shape; instead I would acquire calm. Very calm. I spoke inwards a low, confident voice. I brought her only about like shooting fish in a barrel but surely. Although, I sometimes idea it was me bringing me only about slowly.
The bottom line, I select command of the situation instead of allowing the province of affairs to select command of me over too over too over.
I started accepting that when my mom said she was hungry, she was hungry. Instead of correcting her I said, okay nosotros volition swallow inwards a piffling while. Believe it or not, it worked. She was satisfied alongside the answer; and, I was no longer bent out of shape. Think nearly it. All I had to practise was accommodate my thinking. Or maybe I should say, I started using my brain.
I had accepted my mom's reality.
From that signal on I started to larn how to communicate alongside a individual living alongside dementia.
I realized the less I said, and the ameliorate I listened the easier things become.
I believe changing behavior, understanding what is happening, too a willingness to alter the communication dynamic are the start steps to
Alzheimer's caregiver happiness.
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If you lot are an Alzheimer's hamster right now, don't experience bad. Most of us start out that way.
Here is the skilful news. You are the ONE that gets to decide. Stay on, or acquire off the wheel. The hamster has no choice. You do.
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